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21 Tips for First-Time Anal Sex
I Genuinely Like Anal Sex and I’m Tired of Feeling Bad About It
“Exploring solo is a great way to start, even if your goal is anal intercourse with a partner,” says Carol Queen, staff sexologist at sex-toy retailer . “[When you’re] solo, you get to choose your toys and timing, go slow, learn your responses, and familiarize yourself with the sensations of anal insertion.”
You might be tempted to use a numbing cream so that you feel less discomfort while you insert toys or have sex with your partner, but it’s actually not a good plan. According to anal-toy seller , using numbing creams can increase the chances of your actually hurting yourself. “[Numbing creams] make it easy to keep going even when the lube has run dry or your body tightens up, so it’s a lot more likely that you’ll hurt yourself,” explains, adding that it’s similar to a visit to the dentist. If you’ve ever been given Novocain before getting a filling, then you may have accidentally bitten your cheek, not even knowing you hurt yourself. Hours later, your pain receptors are no longer blocked, and now they’re communicating with your brain that, whatever you did to yourself, it hurts.
Plus, it’s good to know when you’re in pain so you can add more lube, adjust , slow down, or just stop entirely. Anal sex shouldn’t hurt; it’s not a BDSM situation for most. With practice, lube, and prioritizing relaxation above all else, anal should be pleasurable and awesome. If anal doesn’t feel good, you shouldn’t have to feel like you need to soldier on.
